So we spoke a lot on the phone until the inevitable blowup and now I haven’t heard from her for nearly 3 months and haven’t seen her for nearly 6 months. According to my research, on average, 9.2% of dumpees will never hear from their ex again in the future. ... I’m upset that I will never hear from him again. That person has experienced personal things with you that a regular friend hasn't, so keeping them around would just be too complicated. By implementing a no contact period you let time go by for him to calm down emotionally. It took me a few weeks to finally stand up for myself. According to my research, on average, 9.2% of dumpees will never hear from their ex again in the future. I don’t want to let go either. Signs Your Ex Will Never Come Back While we may want to believe that our ex will return one day, that is not always the case, and no amount of wishful or positive thinking will change that fact. We went 12 days NC, but I reached out to him to see how he was. I think it's selfish of my ex to contact me, just to boost his own ego. You need to move forward. Obviously, I can never say never, and I suppose it's always possible until one of us dies that I could hear from him, but since it's been 8 months, I'm now working with the assumption that I will never hear from him again and that our last conversation (which was brutal) was the last time we'll ever talk to each other. Not many guys get to see the behind-the-scenes progression a woman can go through after a breakup. I want to focus on myself for now and if she ever contacts me I’ll be prepared and a new man that she could see. She just became resentful of me and said I was too controlling … I miss her and all the fun times we had physically emotionally, the music, concerts, singing, nature kayaking cutting, splitting firewood, movies, cooking gardening etc. so i guess even i would look like an idiot if i contacted. we were long distance at the end and i essentially had to force him to come break up face to face. It started great and then went bad quickly. I hadn’t heard those words in awhile from him so it felt good. If it comes back to you, it’s yours. But try to dedicate your spare time to activities and people that make you feel valued. You cannot look backward any longer. Another mistake that some guys make is to try and get their ex to talk to them again by bringing up all the good times they had together. For example, lets say that your ex says he doesn’t want you back. Additionally, there are other things you can do that will actually make your ex need to see or hear from you again. 35,958 36.0K. UGh. Although it’s not included in my research statistics, exes oftentimes ask for their belongings back before the end of the first month or shortly after. in the past week ive realised i think this will be me. I’m sure you can think of many other promises your ex failed to fulfill. Before things went to shit, I felt we had a real connection and chemistry. Just how you have difficulties staying away from your ex, so will he or she when things get tough. 25. My break up has been a while 2 months since, it just kinda stings knowing I will never talk to him again, or see him. Mariposa, Same relationship here at the beginning. When you lose someone you loved, it hurts. Will I ever hear from my ex again? I heard from all my exes at some point, whether I was the dumper or the dumpee but I never got back together with any of them. jerk chicken, As exes go through various dumper stages, they begin opening new chapters in their lives. We had been living together for a few months, and I found out he was cheating with my "best" friend. I was with my ex for 4yrs and have been broken up for a bit over 1yr. We spent a week together, then he left and I never heard from him again. Quite frankly, they are 11.1%. Tinder date story from my life: The last guy that I dated kissed me goodbye one night, and then I didn't hear from him. My first ex dumped me and i never ever heard from him again. hide. I finally told her that I would work on these things and that I appreciated the time with her. We had been together for about a year. They experience all sorts of emotions from exuberant elation to despondent nostalgia. Sometimes girls can be very toxic and use guys just because they don’t want to be alone, Click to share on Facebook (Opens in new window), Click to share on Twitter (Opens in new window), Click to share on Pinterest (Opens in new window), Click to share on LinkedIn (Opens in new window), Click to share on Reddit (Opens in new window), Click to share on Tumblr (Opens in new window), Click to share on Pocket (Opens in new window), “Will I Ever Hear From My Ex Again? I had started having feelings again for him before that and yes I made it clear in the beginning my intentions were to get back together. Sometimes those who disconnect are never heard from again. It was a decision influenced by her friends I thought just from the last conversation we had. Have you tried to reach out to her? I tried to reach out, he ignored my correspondence. You dated a narcissist, she love bomb you, then devalued and when you stood up she discarded you. I started sleeping better. That’s why I have done the research for you so that you have a clear indication of how many people actually hear back from their exes. that was it. Day three, still no text or call. This thread is archived . Not sure where I’m going with this, but I just wanted to say thanks. Your ex doesn’t leave you with breadcrumbs, the “what ifs” and endless self-torture and doubt as to whether you’re doing things right. But yeah, it would have been nice right after the breakup if he had just made some contact even if just to see how I was (he knew how it affected me, he knows I love him). together 18 months, he left for someone else, absolutely broke my heart....ive tried many times to contact him, oh god how i have tried and humiliated myself....14 months ago we split up and ive never ever heard back....i hate him for that. Ask her many questions and try to really understand the girl. More upset about us not talking. The more you fear your ex, the more power you end up giving to him or her. She often said that she’s do “something” to me, but never elaborated. Rachel on January 9, 2009 at 1:28 am . But I don't know...I will never know. 2 weeks ago 2 days after I stayed the night at his house, he told me he loved me. 100% Upvoted. By Me and fiance split up 3 months ago, he left me and it was a total shock so I have been totally devastated ever since, esp when he had proposed to me only 3 months earlier, we were also living together for nearly a year I got upset over something daft the night b4 and this lead to him leaving the … Xper 3. I'm 100% i will never hear from him ever again. But why does your ex do this to you? I understand you may feel lost after the breakup and might be experiencing a loss of identity. Too many heartbreaks, and I know myself too well to allow him back into my life in any way at all. Until one day he went ghost for several days. Said I never want to be friends or talk again. Find your group chat here >> start new discussion reply. Consider how long your own golden period was with the relevant narcissist. During those first few weeks in isolation, we really connected and started to build a relationship. depending on how long you were together and how close you were it will be easier or harder to go through. #1 Report Thread starter 5 years ago #1 I was with my first bf for 2 years, and although he was my first love and immersed me in a lot of experiences, the relationship was … I honestly don’t believe he was cheating but I couldn’t figure out what was going on in his life when I wasn’t around. Pfff – all gone. He is always … I basically wanted to keep myself relevant in fear he would forget me. Because the trust between us died, it made the relationship complicated because I could not trust anything he would say even if I had the evidence in hand. Next thing you know he text me saying I love you but I have to let you go. The sky is falling. i saw him once after that at his work, didn't speak though. i think staying in contact does complicate things but its so weird to just wipe someone out who was a big part of ur life, i guess thats how it works tho. My situation seems to be the inverse of most of the comments I read. It's a joke to try to be friends when you still love that person and your ex doesn't give a rats a.s.s about you. They are so caught up in a negative thought spiral, they honestly believe their ex will never reach out. We met at 18 and I got pregnant. never implied i was the reason but I felt like I was. part of my problem with my ex is the part about never hearing from him again. Your ex could contact you just to feel the waters, alleviate his or her guilt, and eventually disappear again. I guess this really only applies to people who have been NC for 6 months or longer as that’s pretty long already to not hear from someone. She was 18 when we met and we instantly hit it off but I knew she was too young for me. While we may want to believe that our ex will return one day, that is not always the case, and no amount of wishful or positive thinking will change that fact. Twitter. Tell us what you think by commenting below.   You cannot paste images directly. × She was so poisonous that I deleted all and never heard from her again...... My ex is in the process of contacting me...probably just lonely. I tried the NC and sporadically tried to connect with him. If you’re wondering “will I ever hear from my ex again,” I may have some good news for you. internet communication is probably most common but infrequent and after a long time. You may really want to get back together with your ex but the fear and anxiety don’t have to control your life. There’s no denying that each and every person is different. That’s why it took some dumpers longer than others to reach out to their exes. Please keep in mind that if you never hear from your ex-partner again, your ex will indirectly give you the cure to stop dreaming about your ex coming back to you. One was an abusive alcoholic who was 20 years older than me, and drank almost constantly. Sort by. Her life was in shambles with her ex still harassing her, pressure from work, family issues, etc. So, with lockdown etc I decided to retrain job wise and also applied for jobs overseas. And for your persona to change for the better, your ex will need a lot of time. We’ve done this many times before, huge argument and then radio silence for a week or two. Heartbroken dumpees are incredibly terrified of never hearing from their ex again. That was 2 weeks ago. Let’s now have a look at the statistics I have gathered. deep down i know NC is the only way to heal, but in the back of my mind i thought he would have contacted me atleast to c if i am ok, but he hasnt and i really dont think he will. If you're happy and it doesn't hurt you to talk to your ex, then do it. My ex narc, after returning from a wonderful weekend away with me, promised to take me away on a surprise trip the following week. As you can see from the chart above, I have conducted research with 108 dumpers. Well...except if your ex … The best thing to do is go NC immediately! This website uses cookies to enhance your browsing experience. Chances of hearing from your ex years later are almost as high as hearing from him or her in the first month. Towards the end, I just wanted out, but every time I tried to end it she really scared me with some of the stuff she said she’d do. You have not heard from us because we have a new toy and we have no need of you. Im not in contact with any of my ex's as such, some im friends with on facebook. No regrets, no curiosity. He never told why he did. Yep. At this stage, you need to operate on the firm belief that you will NEVER hear from her again. 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